Bad Bad Girl

viemoira says:

Very hot- i like the forced servicing of cock and when you finally get to sit on your Daddy’s lap…
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Coyote Too says:

@Daddy: Daddy/little girl is not about incest, or often even about “age play”. It’s usually more about the the emotions those words elicit in a relationship. The couple may be trying to invoke the helplessness/trust/misbehavior of a “little girl” and the power/protection/correction of a “Daddy”. Those are the words we use in our language when a father and daughter are being very personal, and as a result, they carry a lot of emotional weight.

Before you completely dismiss that as twisted, consider the use of “Father” refer to a priest—okay, perhaps not the best of examples nowadays —and “baby” to refer to a girlfriend. Slightly different words, but the intent is the same—to impart a particular set of emotions and feelings. You aren’t the only person to have issues with them, but they are powerful words which don’t have any real equivalents. In this particular piece that @badbadgirlx wrote, that meaning isn’t as clear because the scene doesn’t actually show any of the care aspects that might come with a Daddy/little girl relationship, although it does allude to the role of the “Daddy” as a corrector of bad behavior.

I did a quick search to see if I could find a better discussion of this—I’m sure there must be one, but all I found was another blog post on the topic, but the comments there cover it well. Check them out at http://xpygarx.blogspot.com/2009/06/age-play.html

P.S. I should note that depending on someone’s history, certain types of fantasy play like this can be totally off-bounds. I once made the mistake of holding down the hands (during otherwise vanilla sex) of a partner, only to have her freak because she had (unbeknownst to me) been raped a few years earlier. Other people may find scenes cathartic, in that they recreate past trauma in a space where they actually *can* control the outcome. (That’s not a solution I would take on lightly, and certainly no substitute for counseling; I’m simply mentioning it because I know some people do feel that way.) What it comes down to (as your reaction quite reasonably shows), is that different people may have *very* different reactions to some words and scenes. D/s is not just fantasy sex, it’s extremely emotionally charged sex, which is why people in the space insist so much on the importance of up-front (and in-scene) communication. In fact, that communication is probably even more important in sexting scenarios like this one, since there is so little feedback from the partner.

FWIW. I’ve continued this discussion on my blog at http://www.coyotetoo.com/angst/daddylittle_girl_-_a_brief_.html to see if others can provide any other useful resources on the issue.

Britni TheVadgeWig says:

@Daddy, I totally understand why it could be uncomfortable for someone unfamiliar with the concept or appeal of ageplay. I participate in Daddy/little girl play with my Master, with increasing frequency. I get Bad Bad Girl’s sentiment when she says that it isn’t about “ageplay” for her– sometimes I feel like it isn’t for me, either. I wrote about it on my blog once, and I’ll repost what I had to say on it (and I reposted it on her Daddy’s blog, too):

“Before I get into the appeal of age play for me, I want to make a few things clear:

1. Age play is NOT related to pedophilia in any way. Pedophilia occurs when someone (an adult) finds a child sexually attractive. Age play occurs between consenting adults, usually with one playing the role of a child and the other playing the role of a caretaker of some sort. It’s also common for both parties to play the role of children.

2. Age play (in the Daddy/daughter form that Daddy and I engage in) is NOT related to incest in any way. I have no desire to pretend I’m fucking my *actual* father. Nor does He want to pretend that I am His (hypothetical) actual daughter).

3. If anyone is thinking about engaging in age play, make sure issues of abuse and incest are discussed prior. If a sub was abused as a child, certain behaviors, activities, or phrases can be extremely triggering and emotionally damaging. I, personally, do not have the experience (thankfully) of childhood abuse or incest, so for us, this isn’t an issue.

I’ve never engaged in age play to the extent that Daddy and I do. I’ve never wanted to, either. However, I’ve always known that I needed someone nurturing. That I craved someone who would take care of me. I wanted someone older than me. When I get tired, upset, or emotionally stressed, I tend to regress. I pout, throw a fit, and sometimes even speak in baby talk. When I feel like this, I want someone to come and take care of me, to make it all go away, to make it all better. I want someone who knows how to fix it, and that I can trust implicitly and that I know wants nothing more than to love and protect me. This is very much the role of a father figure, of a “Daddy.”

When I’m feeling like this, I find having Daddy come take care of me is a really comforting thing. He can come tuck me into bed, or make me food, or let me sit on His lap while He watches TV and strokes my hair. I feel protected and calm and at peace. I feel safe. Yes, Daddy wants to kiss His little girl between her legs, He wants to feel what it’s like to be inside of His baby, He wants to show her how much He loves her by showing her how good she makes Him feel when she takes His cock into her mouth. But he also wants to make her feel good, to cuddle with her afterwards, and to make sure she knows she’s safe and loved and protected.

While on the surface, the role play may seem sick and twisted, I’m not fucking my dad in my mind, and he’s not fucking a child in His. I’m being cared for by an older, protective figure, and He is taking care of and protecting a helpless and fragile thing. And, when you really get down to it, isn’t that what D/s is really about anyway? A sub can very easily become a helpless and fragile thing, and the Dom is very often the all knowing, powerful, and protective figure in that sub’s world. A rose by any other name…”

I hope that clarifies. I also left some resources in his comments section that I guess would be worth reposting here.

There is a forum here that looks to be useful: http://witchyhour.net/

I haven’t had the time to post through this (long, grammatically unsound) post (the writer is dyslexic, and her spelling is off, but her points are always valid and insightful): http://akinkygirlsdecend.blogspot.com/2009/12/o...

There are also some resources in this Fet thread. It’s worth searching “ageplay” and poking around the groups there for some references (if you don’t have a Fetlife login, it’s free to sign up): http://fetlife.com/groups/22/group_posts/365045
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