Comments on: Doms do not ask rhetorical questions

By: nitin

nitin — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:30:33 +0000

oh i know that one.. i guess you could be waiting for a few surprises the next time you meet up. cause there might be a tiny change in plans of how the show is gonna roll….
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By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 01:09:28 +0000

Oh, and Wilhelmina, most Doms *don’t* want a sub to blindly follow and obey. But there are ways to question and call out your Dom, and there are ways not to do it. You have do it in a way that respects the dynamic that’s in place, and in a way that your Dom will be okay with.
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By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 01:07:15 +0000

I have the same problem. I tend to get pissed, and I get mouthy and pouty and angry, and I’m left to stew. I like talking about things, and sometimes I want to just yell, “What the FUCK? *I didn’t even DO anything*!” And I can’t. It’s frustrating and hard, but that’s just how the dynamic works. In fact, I’m planning a post about the frustrations of being submissive, and all the things you have to swallow (pun intended).

Trust me, though, I *feel* you!
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By: Wilhelmina

Wilhelmina — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:31:50 +0000

wow…

this is why i don’t think i could be submissive outside of the bedroom. being ordered around before/during sex would make me feel incredibly hot – but if i was in your position i’d just be as pissed off all day and probably would have either ended up wanting to fight with my top or would have just repressed the anger and became sulky/resentful.

maybe i’d just be a bratty sub.

and calling your dom out on being irrational is not ok? because you actually think for yourself and don’t blindly follow every order? that’s just stupid…
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By: Saraid

Saraid — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:47:45 +0000

I’m not in a D/s relationship so I can’t comment much on the dynamic, but it does seem to me it was just a misunderstanding as you said.

By: Lilly

Lilly — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:44:45 +0000

I’d have had the exact same reaction. Without ever seeing me or me saying a word, R would know that I had the “look” – jaw set in anger, hardened eyes, biting my tongue against saying “fuck you”.
I guess the bottom’s stick together here because I side with you and think he jumped too quickly into Dom attitude central.

But no one ever said I was an obedient sub! Perhaps that’s why I clash too much with 98% of Doms.
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