My 12 year old told me that his friend got in trouble at home. “Something on the computer, but I don’t know.”

I knew he knew. So I asked him what happened, “Well he was looking at…something, but he didn’t say.” I prodded him further, telling him that he was not narcing on his friend if he already got in trouble for it.

“He was looking at porn. His mom checked his history.”

ouch. 13 years old. Porn. Apparently- LOTS of porn.

I asked First Born if he’s ever seen anything like that. On the computer. He said, “Well, just at his house. But it’s not like I’m staring at it. He shows us stuff he finds…. are you gonna tell my dad?”

First Born knows that I am the cooler of his parents. There is no need to freak out over the crap that we all do. It was weird though, knowing that my son has seen a naked girl/woman before. I played it cool though- because I knew this was a good opportunity for education.

“You know, First Born. I don’t think that is something you SHOULD be looking at- but obviously you have and I’m sure that as time goes by, you will. Sex is everywhere and there is nothing wrong with it. However you need to understand some things….”

First Born and I have not exactly had the ’sex talk.’ We started to, a few times, but I admit- it creeps me out. It’s weird to think of discussing this with First Born, who is still such a YOUNG 12 year old. I don’t want him to be embarrassed to talk to me- or think that there is something bad or WRONG about sex, but that it comes with responsibility. Like driving a car. I also told him that I didn’t want him to have the wrong idea about women. I don’t know what websites he saw or what was going on in the pictures- but assuming the worst, I don’t want him to think that ALL women do the things he may have seen in the pictures. That no matter who she is, all women need to be treated with respect, and that if you ever push yourself upon a woman or make any unwanted moves on her- grabbing her, touching her, or whatever- I will not feel an ounce of sorrow for him if she kicks his nuts inside out.

Don’t- I repeat- DO NOT get your ideas about women and sex from internet porn.

(oh… and don’t go on my laptop…..)